Some people will walk away from our lives either because we want them to or the other way around. I have had friends walk in and out of my door and although goodbye is always painful – some felt good and liberating after a while. Sometimes you get yourself into an agreement, which seemed to work fine at first but in the long run becomes restricting and destructive.
We all go into a rut in our lives… maybe some of us go through it more frequently than what is deemed normal. And as we go through this phase, there will always be people who will consistently support us and there will always be those who will give up on us too. Be thankful for those who stayed… and just the same, be thankful for those who left. They are only humans – they get tired too. Don’t diss them for leaving you. After all, you have had your moments. Maybe, it is just time for them to leave. Maybe too, it is time for you to grow on your own. And keep in mind that fairytales don’t always have a happy ending.
I’ve been through a relationship that offered me nothing but pains in the past…been with a man whom I thought would stand by me in all my struggles..I cried a barrel when I realized that he could not for reasons I could simply not understand . I learned to face the difficult challenges on my own, focused and unafraid but in the end I stood the winner for I have become emotionally mature and strong through all that. You see everything that happens in our life happens for a reason. Each one of us will always go through a phase when the Almighty decides to put us into a difficult test to help us grow..He is never punishing, never forsaking let’s just trust Him and do all the good that we can for at the end a great reward is awaiting us. God Bless Shang…
Today is Fr. Lolong Crave’s birthday..you might want to greet him here’s his number-09193184610
And you have always been a source of inspiration, marj. For standing tall and courageous in fighting your battles. You know what? I dreamt of you and kuya last night. I must have really missed you both!
Thanks for giving me Fr. Long’s number. I greeted him just now.
maybe you mean: “dish out” and not ‘diss’ lady!
i did mean “diss”, Ray. but i hear ya, gf! (i’m wondering why you are so dissy. hmmm… *giggles*) i’m sorry if i don’t use “old” english anymore. i only use it in formal settings but in my blogs, i want a carefree & hip style of writing (even if i am not so young anymore).
this is what i get from watching too many entertainment/lifestyle shows and reading too many “yuppie” books/mags.
and if you have a blogsite, please share it with me and i’ll be more than happy to give you a few compliments.
thanks for visiting my crib in cyberspace. i can just imagine the world you live in… because of all the things that i shared here, you were so eager to comment on a perceived flaw. c’mon! don’t work too hard. stop and smell the roses, Kiss. i mean, Ray.
Ray, i’m sure you will learn from this:
dis
diss [diss]
(3rd person present singular disses, present participle dissing, past dissed, past participle dissed) diss [diss]
transitive verb (slang)
1. treat disrespectfully: to treat somebody without respect, for example by talking back to somebody in authority, or by being purposely rude or inconsiderate
2. criticize: to criticize somebody or something
[Late 20th century. Origin uncertain: perhaps a shortening of disrespect .]
Take note ray, origin of the word was during the late 20th century…
now here’s my question for you– WHAT CENTURY ARE YOU FROM???? *batting eyelashes with sarcasm*
thanks, ai! your comment is very informative and witty to boot. i’m sure RAY is thankful for the above input – that is, if she can still see the good in people around her.
Two quotations I’d like to share:
“Envy is like a fly that passes all the body’s sounder parts, and dwells upon the sores.” – Arthur Chapman
“Envy assails the noblest and the winds howl around the highest peaks.” – Ovid
Take care, girlfriend! Know that you are loved.
Gurl, L-O-V-E this post too! We may not have the same experiences but I got your point. You are such a good story teller, a very natural one. Like i said, Keep Shining!
To ray: maybe you ought to have a little chat with your elementary english teacher..
lee: thanks. for always, always, always being there for me. you are loved too.
rica: grazie! sometimes, my written thoughts actually stemmed from vicarious experiences.
I truly love this post (kahilakon ko zette). I hate to say “goodbye” ‘coz it hurts. But “goodbye” has definitely brought me to where i am today – HAPPINESS, CONTENTMENT, and SERENITY.
Zette, thanks for your brilliant ideas and insights. Keep on writing – share your talent. Mao nang daghan masuya nimo ‘coz they can’t have your WORLD. Mamatay na sila sa inggit!
Thanks, Harns… and I am happy that you made that big a move. In life, we sometimes have to take risks to really know what’s waiting on the other end – calculated risks, that is. I am really glad you have found your happiness, contentment, and serenity. Very few can stake a claim to that!
To be honest, if duna man gani nasuya nako… they really should not feel that way. We each have our OWN unique world. If mine looks colorful, I’m pretty sure they also have the tools to make their own colors. They don’t have to take the crayons from my box or… they can ask nicely if they really wanted to borrow some of my rainbow. I don’t mind. I’ve got what I need. I already had my 15 minutes of fame.
very well-said Zette! (applaud)
hai shang. lyk d post. ka-relate au ko hehehehe.i know u know y. i just “walked away from somebody else’s lyf” and im happy.
hey! learn to “dish-out” so u won’t get “dissed” hahaha. thanks ray. i learned a lesson from u. il olwez have mr. webster wid me. lisod di ai mag-comment na di ta knows no? mabisto ba na di di ai pud ta kabalo hahaha.
ray, learn english from the british…they invented it.
the other side of the atlantic ruined it.
noses that run and feet that smell? figure that out.
cold as hell and then hot as hell? amazing.
wise guy and wise man, different? guy and man are the same, right?
and what’s with the fo-shizzle dizzle i hear in rap songs?
that’s english?
enlighten us English As Second Language speakers, ray.
Hi Ate Shang! I totally hear you… I for one gave my 200% on someone whom I trusted with my life and happiness. That was mistake because my life and happiness is my own to make. I have tried to salvage whatever was left of it but soon I realized that I was no longer happy in the relationship, to the point that I no longer knew myself. I was so lost and so miserable. And I just gave up. I just got tired. That I decided to just walk away from it all notwithstanding the people that I hurted along the way. Not minding the fact that this was the man I gave up everything for. I just got tired of trying. Though I still love this man so much~ I felt that I just had enough. And that is the saddest part. Because I no longer rule what I feel, my heart has taken a different route of its own. That no matter how much I convince myself to stay and weather it through. A big part of me wants to just liberate myself and walk away… I want to share this with you. This is a beautiful piece by Paulo Coehlo. It’s about closing cycles. It’s amazing…read…
Closing Cycles
– By Paolo Coelho
One always has to know when a stage comes to an end.
If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the
happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.
Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters whatever name we
give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished. Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden?
You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened. You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that.
But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister, everyone will be finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.
None of us can be in the present and the past at the same time, not even when we try to understand the things that happen to us. What has passed will not return: we cannot for ever be children, late adolescents, sons that feel guilt or rancor towards our parents, lovers who day and nightrelive an affair with someone who has gone away and has not the least intention of coming back.
Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away.
That is why it is so important (however painful it maybe!) to destroy
souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home. Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.
Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them. Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood. Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.
Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date,
decisions that are always put off waiting for the ideal moment.
Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell
yourself that what has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.
Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life. Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust. Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.
beautiful!!! thanks for sharing. this meant a lot to me in more ways than one.
gayi… we should talk one of these days.
a few lines from an old but beautiful and uplifting song by Neocolours:
Tuloy pa rin ang awit ng buhay ko
Nagbago man ang hugis ng puso mo
Handa na ‘kong hamunin ang aking mundo
‘Pagkat tuloy pa rin